How to help those who just don't give a S#!*.

Man, I've gotta say, I am at a loss for words right now. Someone in my family is giving me hell and I don't know what to do. I feel like I have tried to be there for them, I have helped them when they needed it, opened my home to them, and had them over for dinner. Now that things are getting a little bit harder on them, and they are kind of getting a reality check- they have been more difficult than ever. I will not name names, because I don't want this to be a nasty, mean post....rather, a way to vent and maybe get some suggestions on how to help someone who is unwilling to be helped? Maybe you have had a similar situation?

Here's the small of it- this person is very young, and living on their own, and just got laid off because their place of business shut down. They have been (or say that they have been) looking hard for another job, but in the meantime, they have no savings and need to get by still. Myself and another family member have tried to tell them that they need to file for unemployment, because that is what it is for- to help you in an emergency- like being laid off- until you can find another job. When I told them about this they said its too much effort, and I said not to be lazy, it is there to help them, thats what it's there for. And this person said "youre annoying. stop talking to me". I know that this is just them being defensive, because maybe they know i'm right and they ARE in fact just being lazy. But I can not help wanting to help this person. I love them, and care about them and want them to be okay- but I know that if I help financially they will not learn, and will take the situation for granted.

I-am-at-a-loss....


How do you help someone who isn't willing to help themselves?......



On a brighter note-
here is a delicious recipe i found on pinterest from "For The Love Of Food Blog" --

Found it ( here )

  

Any input is greatly appreciated! Thanks guys.

-K